How Do I Know If My Child Is Dyslexic?

As a parent, it’s natural to notice when something doesn’t feel quite right. Maybe your child is bright and curious, but when it comes to reading or writing, things seem unexpectedly difficult. You might be wondering if it’s just a phase or something more. Dyslexia is one of the most common learning differences, yet many parents are left navigating the signs alone, unsure of what to look for or what to do next.

This post is here to offer clarity, not overwhelm. If you’re questioning whether your child might be dyslexic, you’re in the right place to start getting answers.

What Is Dyslexia?

Dyslexia is a specific learning difficulty that primarily affects reading and spelling skills. It is not linked to intelligence. In fact, many dyslexic children are highly creative, empathetic and strong problem solvers. But without the right support, they may struggle to express what they know in traditional classroom settings.

Dyslexia often shows up as persistent difficulties with phonological processing, memory, sequencing, and word recognition. And while it may affect schoolwork, the emotional impact—like frustration, anxiety or feeling ‘stupid', can be even more significant.

Common Signs of Dyslexia in Children

Signs can appear early, sometimes before formal reading instruction begins. Here’s what to watch for:

In Early Years (ages 3–6):

• Struggles to learn nursery rhymes or the alphabet

• Mixes up words or has delayed speech development

• Difficulty remembering names, colours, or instructions

• Avoids drawing or writing activities

  
  

In Primary Years (ages 6–11):

• Slow reading progress

• Trouble spelling common words

• Reverses letters (like b/d or p/q)

• Avoids reading aloud

• Poor handwriting

• Seems bright verbally but struggles with written work

  
  

In Secondary Years (ages 11+):

• Reads slowly and hesitantly

• Struggles to organise written work

• Avoids homework or takes much longer than expected

• Often forgets assignments or appears disorganised

• Low confidence or emotional shutdown around school tasks

  
  

Every child is different and dyslexia can look different in each one. If you’ve spotted several of these signs and they’ve persisted over time, it may be worth exploring further.

Emotional Clues That Matter Too

Dyslexia is not just an academic issue. Many parents say the emotional signs were the first red flags:

• Your child says things like 'I’m stupid' or 'I hate reading'

• They become anxious or upset before school

• They avoid homework or reading at bedtime

• You can sense their frustration even when they’re trying hard

  
  

These emotional signals are important. They show how deeply your child might be affected by the challenges they’re facing, even if no one else has spotted them yet.

What to Do If You Suspect Dyslexia

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed. Schools are busy. Waiting lists are long. And sometimes, even well-meaning teachers can overlook the signs. But there is a path forward.

Here are some calm, manageable steps you can take:

Write Down What You’re Noticing

Keep a short list of the things you’ve observed. Be specific—include examples of schoolwork, comments your child has made or any teacher feedback.

Speak to Your Child’s Teacher

Ask what they’ve noticed. Have they seen similar struggles? What interventions have been tried? This conversation may also help build a clearer picture of next steps.

Explore a Diagnostic Dyslexia Assessment

A formal dyslexia assessment is the most accurate way to determine whether your child is dyslexic. At This Is Dyslexia, we offer both face-to-face and remote assessments suitable from age 8 onwards.

An assessment will provide a detailed cognitive profile and a written report, including specific strategies you and your child’s school can use for support.

Remember: Getting Help Is Not a Failure

Many parents worry that a diagnosis will limit their child. In reality, it can be the key to unlocking support, building self-worth, and moving forward with clarity. Knowing how your child learns is a powerful form of advocacy—not a label.

Why Parents Choose This Is Dyslexia

This isn’t just about ticking a box. It’s about seeing your child clearly and helping them see themselves differently too.

Led by award-winning assessor Laura Gowers, This Is Dyslexia offers neurodivergence-informed support that meets you where you are. Whether you’re in Kent or across the UK, we provide warm, professional and deeply personalised assessments and follow-on support.

We understand the emotional weight behind the question: 'Is my child dyslexic?' And we’re here to make that journey clearer, kinder and grounded in trust.

Real Outcomes, Not Just Reports

A dyslexia diagnosis can:

• Help your child understand why they learn differently

• Boost their self-confidence and emotional wellbeing

• Unlock support at school (e.g. exam accommodations)

• Inform strategies that work at home and in the classroom

• Give you clarity as a parent, instead of second-guessing yourself

We also offer tuition and study support following assessment, so your child’s progress doesn’t stop at the diagnosis. Our goal is not just to identify difficulties, but to nurture your child’s strengths and confidence.

You're Not Alone

It’s okay if you feel unsure right now. That feeling means you’re paying attention. And the fact that you’re asking these questions shows how much you care. You don’t have to figure this out alone.

To learn more about our dyslexia assessments or to book a free consultation, visit our main website at https://www.thisisdyslexia.co.uk/dyslexia-assessments

We’re here to help you move from worry to clarity and from confusion to confident action, one step at a time.